One of the many bugs in Sean 3.5 was that my ‘No’ function was disabled. I had a really hard time putting my foot down when someone asked me to do something I didn’t want to do or someone’s actions were bothering me. I would instead accept whatever was happening and let my anger over it fester. (Note that this does not apply to TGAW — I would routinely deny her requests, but I believe this is a different situation entirely as her relationship to me is different than that of friends, coworkers, and strangers.) I think it’s possible that I did that because of my shame over what a rotten person I was — that a confrontation would result in someone pointing out what a poor life I was living and how many shortcomings I allowed to represent me as a person.
I am only now beginning to become a better person and put that rotten old self behind me, but I can already feel a virility that has been foreign to me for a long time. Already today, I have had two incidents where people asked me for unreasonable things, things that I normally would have begrudgingly accepted, and both times now, I’ve laid down the law to the people who asked about them. I suppose some would label my new strength as self-righteousness, and that may be the case. But it feels great to know that I can express myself without fear of someone trotting out my miserable existence to shame me.
tgaw said,
August 22, 2007 at 12:20 pm
Haha– you have a tag simply for “No”.
No can indeed be very empowering– I have a post on that too!
http://tgaw.wordpress.com/2006/11/08/n-o-spells-no/
hokiett said,
August 22, 2007 at 12:21 pm
I am just getting the hang of this tagging thing.
Clint said,
August 25, 2007 at 1:48 pm
I wonder if tags could be specified in the query string. I would have to have some .BAT files (journal, after-movie, news, etc) that would automatically open up the blog post with the tags I want ALREADY checked…
HokieTT said,
August 25, 2007 at 2:08 pm
It would also be nice if they checked themselves off as you type words that are existing tags. It would function similar to a spell check or google toolbar’s on-the-fly searching.